The four loves come from the Greek who use four words to describe what we use one for.
1. Storge: Affection Love / 2. Phileo: Friendship Love / 3. Eros: Romantic Love / 4. Agape: Divine Love
1. Storge Love: [The frosting on the cake] Affection is the most humble of the loves. It is the love of enjoying someone or something. It is love of the family and of the familiar.
2. Phileo Love: [The punch on the side] Friendship arises out of mere companionship when two or more of the companions discover that they have in common some interest which the others do not share.
3. Eros Love: [My cake!] This is also the love that creates the hottest of fires in our emotions. Romantic or erotic love: Lewis calls this “being in love.” It is the love that is least thought about but most felt.
4. Agape Love [You may take my cake]: This is the highest and most unselfish of the loves, the love the Apostle Paul talks about in 1 Corinthians 13. It is also called Charity. It is not natural, it goes against our very natures. It loves the unlovable, undeserving, the ugly. It gives all and asks for nothing in return. It is the one that takes the greatest chance. And is hit with the most loss.
Jan Steven is the Pastoral Care Chaplain at Grace Mennonite Church. She is also the webservant.